"They just don't get it honey" were the words from a salty counselor I saw over a course of time. Though I disagreed with some of her observations and statements, she did have an understanding of what I was up against since she had experienced great loss not once but twice. Those words resonate within me and are an anchor in times of trouble.
There is something that happens when one becomes sick, one becomes porous - vulnerable. That vulnerability needs to be patched. You learn quickly that not everyone is going to understand or offer good advice so you learn to not go where there is a risk of more pain. People can only give you what they have and if they don't have it, then it serves no purpose except to cause more frustration and pain. I have enough pain already.
In my intensive study I can only conclude that hype is the best thing that Western Culture has to offer. It is merely a glossing over of reality. Truth is oftentimes not pretty, but truth provides a beacon of light that we gravitate to, it is the most precious commodity one can find.
"you will know the truth and the truth shall set you free" John 8:32